Saying NO is hard for people. You get so caught up worrying about hurting someone’s feelings or anticipating their reactions, that you compromise yourself over and over again.
How many times have you gone along with something that was not a YES for you just to keep the peace or keep a friend or family member happy.
News flash! You’re not really keeping the peace (and the peace I’m referring to is your own) and I’d also say you’re also being a dishonest friend and/or family member.
Saying an honest no (or yes) ultimately means being TRUE TO YOU without worrying about what the other person may think or how they might respond. It’s about saying what’s true for you in any given moment.
It’s knowing that saying NO doesn’t mean you don’t care about or love someone, it’s that you care about and love yourself first and you respect your own feelings and ultimately, yourself.
When you say an honest NO, it is an honest YES to you and also for the other person because they are being given the gift of hearing from the authentic you, and that is powerful.
The next time you know you need to say NO, but are’t quite sure how to do it, refer to this list for some great ways you can say a sincere NO. (Note: Some of these come from The Work of Byron Katie, of which I’m a trained facilitator).
What other ways can you think of to say No? Let me know in the comments!
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Today, I"m celebrating the launch of The Case of the Missing Sparkle, a Coloring/Coaching Adventure!
This is the latest in my new line of products designed to To Use Coloring To Heal Your Heart and it grew out of a very interesting experiment suggested by Catherine Behan, Life Coach Extraordinaire.
She gave me an assignment to draw with my left hand for 21 days! Twenty-one days drawing only with the wrong hand! I thought she was nuts! But, I was also game to give it a try...what did I have to lose?
So I started my mission to draw something every day with my non-dominant hand. I admit I had some resistance and missed a couple of days and had to start over. However, during those 30 or so days, something magical started to happen .... things started to shift and change in my life in delightful and interesting ways. I started to think that maybe Catherine was onto something! lol
The Case of The Missing Sparkle grew out of that exercise. And, all the art is drawn with my left hand.
Now, let me tell you another thing! I was NOT excited to be sharing my left-handed artwork, which in my opinion, looked like someone drew it with, well, the wrong hand!
Then I realized how many benefits I received while I was drawing. Some of my drawings really surprised me and a few of them are pretty darn cute, so there we go....The Case of the Missing Sparkle was born!
I invite you to download the free book and follow the seven clues as it leads you on a fun, different and exciting coloring and coaching adventure! And, I'm very curious about your results, so please feel free to email me with anything you discover at TheColoringBookCoach@gmail.com
In honor of the experiment that turned into a book, I'm offering a 48-Hour Only Membership Special in The Coloring Book Clubhouse, which includes a lot of great benefits! You can join during this time period for the Introductory Price of $11.11 for THREE MONTHS (regularly $11.11 per month). People are saying it's a fun place to make new friends and find positive and encouraging support.
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