TRANSCRIBED FROM THE HOW TO FALL IN LOVE WITH YOURSELF TOOLKIT PODCAST:
Hey, it's Kim A. Flodin and welcome to the how to fall in love with yourself. Toolkit podcast. Could I have made that name any longer?
Anyway, this is the month of December and we have an awesome theme for this month. It's powerful. The theme for this month is follow your intuition. Be smart, be brave, tell the truth and don't take any shit. And that's a quote from Kelly Cutrone. I like Kelly, I don't know Kelly, but I like that attitude.
So it's the end of the year and I can't think of any better time than to take a stance for yourself, which means really trust that you do know on the inside what's going on. Still waters run deep. You have a stillness inside of you that you can access that will answer anything you need to know. And that is your intuition.
So follow your intuition. Be smart. Say no. If you need to say no, be brave. That also could mean saying no. That also could mean saying yes if there's something that's scaring you a little bit, but you're kind of still attracted to it. Be brave. Say yes and tell the truth.
There is no time like the present than to tell the truth. Whatever that means to you. If this is resonating within you right now, if you have something within you that you have been meaning to tell the truth about now's the time. And when you do tell that truth, don't take any shit.
So whew, we're going out with a bang here people. This is a powerful month.
December 2-8: Let's move into the first week of this month, which runs from December 2nd through 8th and we have a quote here for this week, which is from Wayne Dyer. I love Wayne Dyer. He was one of my teachers along the way, a long, long time ago. But he's great. And if you don't know who he is, please look him up.
Anyway, the quote is, heaven on earth is a choice you must make, not a place you must find. What does that mean? Let's, let's think about that for a second. Have an unearth as a choice. You must make, not a place. You must find what it means to me anyway is that you're basically, I'm basically right here right now. I don't know what's going to happen literally in the next minute.
I mean we all live in places where, you know, extreme weather can almost occur anywhere nowadays. So literally, I mean anything can happen in any moment. So when you really get clear on that, the mind loves to go forward or backwards and take us into places that we're not even at.
I mean, literally, I am just sitting here in front of my microphone talking into it right now. That's all that's happening for me. And it's fine. It's great. I can choose to make this my heaven because why not? Everything's going fine. I'm recording the podcast. It's good.
So heaven on earth is a choice you must make and you can do that in any situation if you drop into the situation and ground yourself and watch where the mind wants to take you and where you actually are. Find the point of contrast and find that stillness and you might just be able to shift your perception.
Again, this kind of follows the theme of follow your intuition. Be smart, be brave, tell the truth, tell the truth to yourself and don't take any shit from the mind trying to take you into the future and take you backwards. Because that just does not help in the long run.
December 9-15: Week number two runs from December 9th through the 15th. And I love this saying. It is, you can't drag anyone down who isn't willing to go.
I'm applying this to my own life. Like I can't drag myself down if I'm not saying I'm willing to go there. Or if someone comes along and is talking crap to me and I agree with what they say, I'm, I'm willing to go. I'm willing to walk down into the pit of hell and feel bad about myself over something someone else said about me, which I want to say. I don't do that very often anymore. Because I understand that we're all in pain of our own sword and when we've lash out, we're lashing out. Because of our hurt on the inside.
So if you can find compassion for people and realize they're usually talking about themselves.But it can be hard. Sometimes words do hurt and you know, I do get dragged down. Just remember again, back to our overall theme. Don't take any shit. Tell the truth. Be brave, be smart. Follow your intuition. If someone's trying to drag you down, this is not the month you want to go with them. Just stand tall. Be firm, believe in yourself. Don't let yourself drag yourself down. Don't beat yourself up over things.
Just stay rooted in the here and now and keep on going because this is a powerful month and it's a powerful month to stand tall and be firm in your conviction of who you are as a person and how really fabulous you are as a person. So whew.
Yeah. Week two, you can't drag anyone down who isn't willing to go. So the key is don't be willing to go. Week three runs from December 16th through the 22nd, and this is one of my favorite sayings, and you'll see it.
December 16-22: You'll see me saying this on social media. I love taking pictures and I seem to find hearts everywhere, so it's love is everywhere when you're paying attention. Again, that goes back to the whole thing of paying attention. Where am I right now? Where is the love right now? Well, for me, I'm sitting in this little booth recording this podcast, but I have a chair that's supporting me. My equipment's, it's comfortable in here. It's, I'm pretty in a year, so if that's not love, I don't know what it is so you can find it if you look for it.
The other thing is I'm going to challenge you this week to take a time limit. Whatever you want to do. If it's 12 hours a day, 24 hours, 40 hours, I don't care. Just say I want to see as many hearts in as many places as I can in the next 48 hours say and start keeping track because I'm telling you love is everywhere when you're paying attention, and if you look at the blog post for this week, I found a picture of a heart. I saw a heart. It formed out of a bumper, just the angle of it. A bumper had fallen off a car and someone had set it up against this concrete blocks and all I saw was a heart. Other people just would've seen garbage. But there's definitely a heart there.
So keep your eyes open. Love is everywhere. And if you start living like that, the universe really does start to show you the love. I'm not even kidding. More and more magical things will happen.
December 23-29: So the last week of this month, which is December 23rd through the 29th has another great saying. The only time that Rose colored glasses don't work is when you take them off. And that's a quote from Jim Channon. The only time Rose colored glasses don't work is when you take them off. It's true. You got to think positively.
People, I wake up every day or most of the days, and I literally, I mean, I'm kind of a dork, but I don't care. I literally I say to myself, it's going to be a great day. Everything's going my way. You know, and I'm sure that's like the start of a song or something, but it just makes me feel better cause I don't know what the day is going to bring, but I do know that if I greet the day in a positive, happy way, the days going to respond in kind. That just makes sense.
You put out the positive energy, it's going to come back to you. I have learned this over and over and over again in my life. Either I am the luckiest person alive or I am so positive or possibly a little bit of both. I do know that I am a cockeyed optimist. I really am and I've been called Pollyanna and you know other names because I see things as being good most of the time.
I just expect things to be good. I expect things to go well to the point that at one point in my life I was able to fly free on a major airline for about 12 or 13 years, but I had to to fly standby, but I always just thought, "Oh, it's going to be such a great adventure and I always expected to get on the plane and guess what? I did! I got on the plane 57 times and I think only two times I couldn't get out of the plane, but then something else really far out and wonderful happened and most of those trips were in first-class.
Think positive. It's worth it. It doesn't cost you anything. Just remember we're ending the year and the only time that Rose colored glasses don't work is when you take them off. That is it just a great reminder for life in a really beautiful way to wrap up this year.
Speaker 1: (09:14)
Let's go into the new year. Knowing that we can really trust ourselves. Really being able to know that our intuition is solid. We can rely on that. We are going to be smart. We're going to be brave. We're telling our truth and we're not taking any more shit. I just love that.
Yet, even among all those things, we're going to remember that heaven on earth is a choice and we're going to make that choice and we're not going to keep searching for something to be better because we're going to find what's really awesome and good right here.
And, we're going to remember that you can't drag anyone down who isn't willing to go. That's either you or someone trying to drag you down. And of course you don't want to do that to other people. And then of course, love is everywhere. Look for those hearts. Look for those hearts.
Speaker 1: (10:02)
Set that 48 hour time limit and ask the universe to show you the love. And you know it might not be a heart for you. It could be something else that symbolizes love, but just ask for it to show you the love. I see a lot of hearts.
And then we're going out of the year with the only time that rose-colored glasses don't work is when you take them off. So there is every reason to be optimistic. And every reason to believe that this is going to be a great month and a great year ahead.
As a challenge for this final week of the month, full week of the month, you could write down every day three things that you're grateful for and three things that you're optimistic about and see where that takes you. Just do it for seven days and see what happens. So that's it for this month. Thank you so much for tuning in.
Speaker 1: (10:51)
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So have a great month. December is a beautiful month. Go out there, be your best self, and I'll be back next year for your January, how to fall in love with yourself. Tool kit.
Hello and welcome to how to fall in love with yourself toolkit for the month of November, 2019 this is an exciting month with some great themes.
The overall theme for this month is one of my favorite sentiments, which is believe in yourself. It all starts there, people. Unless you believe in yourself, you're not really going to be able to accomplish too much is got to believe in yourself. So just remember, you've got this, you can do this and you're amazing.
Let's move into what's happening now for the month of November. The first week of this month runs from Sunday, November 3rd and ends on Saturday. The ninth. The theme for this week is you must give up the life you planned in order to have the life that is waiting for you. That's a quote actually from Joseph Campbell. So let's unpack that a little bit.
The first thing that really comes to my mind is there's a great saying that if you want to make God laugh, make plans. Because truly how many times have you planned something and it went exactly as planned. I really can't think of anything that I've done that has gone exactly as planned, but I'm kind of glad that things don't go exactly as planned because you know, variety is the spice of life and when things go awry it is a chance for you to rise up and shine and deal with it, right?
It's not really what's going wrong. That is such a problem. It's how we react to it.
So what Joseph Campbell is saying is basically give up the life you've planned and look at what's waiting for you. I think we all get up every day with certain plans and we, if we're planning too much, we can actually miss what's actually happening in our lives.
I know for me personally, one of the things I really try to do every day is go outside and just be outside in nature for, you know, 10 to 15 minutes a day without my phone, without anything else. Just sit and think, or look at the clouds, watch the wind, blow, listen to the birds, whatever it is. Just take some time out for yourself to, you know, to be open to what's actually occurring around you because there's so much going on and a lot more going on than we ever think.
It's okay if you give up the life you've planned because there is a life that's waiting for you.
This first week of this month might be just a great time to kind of think about maybe what, what can you give up, what can you give up and what can you open yourself to.
The second week of the month runs from Sunday, November 10th through Saturday the 16th. The theme for this week is expect nothing, appreciate everything and watch your life change.
You know, I have another saying that I like to say is,expectations will fuck you up. It's true. Anytime we're having an expectation of something that doesn't go our way, this kinda harks back to week one and it can really screw us up. And a lot of times what I've noticed is I have expectations when I didn't even know I had expectations. I'll get somewhere and realize, oh my God, I, I didn't even know I was thinking about this, but this isn't what I thought was going to be happening. So that's what I mean by expectations can fuck you up.
But if you can find it clear, if you can find a way clear to lose your expectations and just be super open to what's occurring and what's happening in your life, it can be amazing. Then if you really want to ramp this up, start to appreciate everything that's happening.
There's always something happening for you. It's rarely, rarely happening to you. I don't know if it's ever happening to you. I think it's always happening for us actually.
But if you can appreciate everything, I guarantee you by dropping expectations, really focusing on appreciation, you will watch your life change, your life will change.
So it's a powerful week and combined with the theme of believing in yourself. You could really see some things happen this week.
Moving into our third week, which runs from Sunday, November 17th through Saturday, the 23rd the theme this week is what are the infinite possibilities for something different to show up in my life.
I love how this month is just hanging together with kind of a common theme because you know, possibilities are infinite and anything can show up and if we apply the rule from the previous week to expect nothing but appreciate everything when something different does show up and we appreciate it, it can be a real game changer.
Plus don't lock yourself in thinking that you're just able to do X, Y, Z because truly we have infinite possibilities in life. We all know this where we've been chugging along in one direction and all of a sudden something occurs in our life that we did not see coming and we're off in a different direction and managing it. So you can do this. Just be open to those infinite possibilities for something different to show up when you release your expectations. It really opens up space for infinite possibilities to show up right now in your life.
Keep an eye out during this third week of November because you just don't know what's going to happen.
And then we have the last week of the month, which runs from Sunday, November 24th through the 30th Saturday and includes Thanksgiving.
I kinda love the saying for this week, the theme, which is don't look back. You're not going that way. Don't look back. That is so true. I mean, we all have a tendency to look back and see what's gone on and lament over things that could have been different or wish we could have changed something. But you know what? That's all great. But that's not where you're going. You've already been there.
So this week don't bother looking back. You're not going that way. Let's just look forward. Believe that we can remember that we can believe in ourselves and just know that things are okay and we can be open to what's happening and we don't need to look back anymore.
A lot of times looking back, it can be painful. We can get caught up in feelings of regret, shame, blame, anger, whatever that isn't helpful for where you're at right now.
If you are a person that does that to yourself, I'm going to say one of the things that I recommend is spending time in nature, head outside, sit under a tree for 15 minutes, look around, take in life. life is happening and what's already happened is what's already happened.
That's it for this month. Have a great November and if you really want to up your game and really change your life, I have something called the Superwoman Sessions. It's a four-week program based on my coloring book journal called, You've Got This Superwoman, which will change your life. There's so many benefits.
Plus it's super fun. You can take time out for yourself to participate in something fun and beneficial that you don't have to plan for yourself. The benefits include finding a renewed sense of accountability and accomplishment for yourself as you step forward and take positive steps to support yourself and care for yourself.
Every week you'll find personalized cheerleaders and new friends for support and tough times. There's reasons to take care of yourself and nurture yourself. It's a safe place and it's just really a lot of fun.
It's a four week session. I do it with three people at a time and we meet for an hour once a week for four weeks. And it's amazing.
One of the things, and this is really worth the price of admission, is you will learn how to say no easily and effortlessly without shame or second guessing. Because guess what? A note to someone else is a yes to you. So say yes to yourself and consider doing a Superwoman Session.
Anybody who signs up now during the month of November will receive a free printed copy of You've Got This Superwoman, the coloring book journal, which we use in the class. And that book is about 240 pages. So it's a, it's a really cool coloring book journal.
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I just had an interesting exchange on social media with someone I've known for a long time but don't know well. This person was sharing that they are really pissed off about something that happened a long time ago. I don't believe it happened to them personally, but they somehow decided to take it personally.
I get it. We all get pissed off by things we hear about or read about... and it's okay to be angry as long as you do something with that anger. Anger is a great catalyst for action... and sadly, it's also a great catalyst for, well, more anger.
It's like the old saying " Holding on to anger is like grasping a hot coal with the intent of throwing it at someone else; you are the one who gets burned. - Buddha"
My point is why hold onto it year after year after year? Why let a coal sit and burn in your soul like that? Who are you hurting? You are hurting you! If you're pissed off, do something about it - use it to guide you to constructive action, don't let it simmer forever... nobody needs that. Not you, not the people around you.
Also, if you're pissed at someone for something they supposedly did in the past, I advise you (and I'm talking to myself as well) to look at what you're pissed at them for exactly and find a time when you probably did the same exact thing!
For instance, if I'm pissed off about something someone said that I disagree with, I sure as hell can find where I've done that about a million times. I've judged people and said things that didn't need to be said and thankfully, I now have tools that help me let that shit go! And I can tell you, it's amazing when you do that!
It comes down to this: When we know better, we do better. Belief systems and people can change and sometimes it only takes an instant! I know that and so do you... remember that thing you were so sure of which turned out NOT at all like you thought? Yep, you saw it differently and realized you were wrong and hopefully you changed!
One thing I know for use is that everyone is capable of change. And, in fact that is the only constant - I am not the same person I was exactly 5 years ago and I bet you're not either. But to judge someone on something that happened in the past especially if they themselves have offered that maybe they could have done better only hurts you.... you are losing the chance to know them and to learn from what they've learned.
It's okay to be angry... but do you really need to carry that hot piece of coal around?
If you think this all sounds nuts, that's okay... or if you realize you might have some anger lying around that is burning you, let me know... I have several techniques to help you let that shit go! Email firstname.lastname@example.org and let's work together to clear that coal and heal those burns.
INTUITIVE INSIGHT: JUNE 3-9
Note: The Colors of the Week Report and Downloadable Kit will be delivered monthly now on the first Sunday of the month and will contain the complete Report and Kit for the entire month.
June is off to a powerful start! I mean look at the colors for this first week… they are vibrant, powerful, and eye-catching… just like you!
It’s a week to focus on your personal freedom… WHAT DO YOU WANT TO DO? This is the question you must ask yourself and be prepared to hear the answer and take a step towards fulfilling it? You know what this is and you probably even know what step or steps you need to take to start making it happen. Now is the time to do that! The energy supports you in taking those steps!
As we move into the middle of the week, the focus in all on family. What does that mean? Well, actually family can mean a lot of things…. Your family of origin… where you came from, or the family you have created for yourself now… which also can mean a lot of things… family doesn’t always mean the ones we are directly related to!
So, in general it’s a good time right now to evaluate your relationships! Take a look and be real about what’s working, what’s not, what can be improved and maybe even what can be let go of. This is powerful and you can do it!
As the week draws to an end, we shift to animals (who can also be part of the family).When we become aware of the animals around us, either the pets we have or the animals who show themselves to us in nature, we can learn a lot! Pay attention to your pets and right now and listen closely to what they may be trying to share with you and also any animals who keep showing up.. they come with a message!
INTUITIVE INSIGHT JUNE 10-16
This is a powerful week… with a lot of potential for positive change if you are willing to step forward and make the first moves.
The beginning of the week is about justice. Justice is a powerful word and can mean a lot of things to people… one of the things it doesn’t mean is revenge. That is not the same as justice.
Justice is when things are balancing out in a fair and just way and there’s a good chance that you might see something you’ve been wondering about experiencing the effects of justice without you having to do a thing. It will resolve beautifully on it’s own! (If something really cool or crazy happens now… be sure to let me know at email@example.com!)
Midweek finds you focusing on travel… are you getting ready to make a move? Take a trip? Planning a trip? Thinking about traveling? Or even daydreaming about trips you’ve already made?
Now is the time to indulge all your travel fantasies and maybe even finally start planning the big trip you’ve dreamed about.
It can also be a time of travel on the interior… you may be discovering things about yourself and your life that are surprising, exciting, and eye-opening… pay attention to what may be revealed to you right now!
As the week draws to a close, know that you are protected in all ways. If that doesn’t feel true to you, please take a moment and call on Archangel Michael… he is the angel of protection and is always there for you if you need him (and if you don’t). I
f you feel the need for protection right now from anything… ask him to come and help you… you may just be surprised what happens when you do! (I’ve been working with Archangel Michael for years and he has never let me down and I’ve learned things might not always happen how you think they should, but in the long wrong, they are happening in the best way for you if you can trust His guidance!)
INTUITIVE INSIGHT JUNE 17-23
Kim A. Flodin
COACH. INTUITIVE. HEALER. TEACHER. ARTIST.
Former corporate tech nerd now embracing her inner hippie. Fun-focused, adventurous admirer of the planet, whose art found her. What started out as a hobby to keep the mind busy has changed her life forever.
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